The notation you used to explicate stability is prone to misunderstanding, and I think that happened to you.
Let $S := \mathbb{C}^{\mathbb{N}}$ the space of all complex sequences. For some things, it will be more convenient to explicitly write/view a sequence as a map $\mathbb{N} \to \mathbb{C}$, rather than to use index notation, so I will use function notation for sequences. $S$ contains a lot of famous subspaces, but the one we are primarily interested in here is
$$c := \left\{f \in S : \lim_{n\to \infty} f(n) \text{ exists}\right\}.$$
Before we come to the summation methods, we define a few useful linear operators on $S$. We need the partial-sums operator and its inverse, the difference operator,
$$\Psi f \colon n \mapsto \sum_{k = 0}^n f(k)\quad\text{and}\quad \Delta f\colon n \mapsto \begin{cases}\qquad f(0) &, n = 0 \\ f(n) - f(n-1) &, n > 0.\end{cases}$$
Further, we need the left and right shift operators,
$$L f \colon n \mapsto f(n+1),\qquad R f \colon n \mapsto \begin{cases}\quad 0 &, n = 0 \\
f(n-1) &, n > 0 \end{cases}$$
and the injection $I \colon \mathbb{C} \to S$ given by
$$I a \colon n \mapsto \begin{cases} a &, n = 0 \\ 0 &, n > 0. \end{cases}$$
Now we define
- a limiting method is a map $\Lambda \colon \mathcal{D}(\Lambda) \to \mathbb{C}$, where $\mathcal{D}(\Lambda)$ is a subset of $S$, and
- a summation method is a map $\Sigma \colon \mathcal{D}(\Sigma) \to \mathbb{C}$, where $\mathcal{D}(\Sigma)$ is a subset of $S$.
So far, limiting methods and summation methods are exactly the same thing - a rather uninteresting thing, by the way - but we view them differently, and they will start to differ and become more interesting when we consider methods with some useful properties.
We note that every limiting method induces a summation method and vice versa via
$$\Sigma_{\Lambda} f := \Lambda (\Psi f)\quad\text{and}\quad \Lambda_{\Sigma} f := \Sigma(\Delta f).$$
Thus $\mathcal{D}(\Sigma_{\Lambda}) = \Delta(\mathcal{D}(\Lambda))$ and $\mathcal{D}(\Lambda_{\Sigma}) = \Psi(\mathcal{D}(\Sigma))$.
Now a limiting or summation method $M$ is (unsurprisingly) linear if $\mathcal{D}(M)$ is a linear subspace of $S$, and $M \colon \mathcal{D}(M) \to \mathbb{C}$ is linear. A limiting method $\Lambda$ is regular if $c\subset \mathcal{D}(\Lambda)$ and $\Lambda f = \lim\limits_{n \to \infty} f(n)$ for all $f\in c$. A summation method $\Sigma$ is regular if the associated limiting method $\Lambda_{\Sigma}$ is regular, i.e. if $\Delta(c) \subset \mathcal{D}(\Sigma)$ and
$$\Sigma f = \lim_{n \to \infty} \sum_{k = 0}^n f(k)$$
for all $f \in \Delta(c)$. We note that a limiting method is linear resp. regular if and only if the associated summation method has that property.
This undoubtedly has all been rather cumbersome and boring, but now we can define stability in a concise and unambiguous way. We say a summation method $\Sigma$ is strongly stable (s-stable for short) if
$$f \in \mathcal{D}(\Sigma) \iff Lf \in \mathcal{D}(\Sigma),\quad\text{and}\quad \Sigma f = f(0) + \Sigma(Lf).$$
A limiting method $\Lambda$ is called s-stable if the associated summation method $\Sigma_{\Lambda}$ is s-stable. This is what wikipedia calls stable. And a summation method $\Sigma'$ is weakly stable (w-stable) if
$$f \in \mathcal{D}(\Sigma') \iff RLf \in \mathcal{D}(\Sigma'), \quad\text{and}\quad \Sigma' f = f(0) + \Sigma'(RL f).$$
A limiting method is called w-stable if the associated summation method is s-stable. It seems that is what you used as stability. We have the
Lemma: Every regular and linear summation method is w-stable.
Proof: Clearly $I(\mathbb{C}) \subset c$, and since $RL f = f - I\bigl(f(0)\bigr)$ we have $f \in \mathcal{D}(\Sigma) \iff RL f \in \mathcal{D}(\Sigma)$ for every regular and linear summation method $\Sigma$. The regularity yields $\Sigma \bigl(I\bigl(f(0)\bigr)\bigr) = f(0)$, and then linearity yields
$$\Sigma f = \Sigma\bigl(I\bigl(f(0)\bigr) + RLf\bigr) = \Sigma\bigl(I\bigl(f(0)\bigr)\bigr) + \Sigma(RL f) = f(0) + \Sigma(RL f). \hspace{3em}\square$$
Things are different for s-stability, however. Before we give a few examples of regular and linear summation methods which aren't s-stable, we prove the
Lemma: A regular and linear summation method $\Sigma$ is s-stable if and only if
$$f \in \mathcal{D}(\Sigma) \iff Rf \in \mathcal{D}(\Sigma), \quad\text{and}\quad \Sigma f = \Sigma (Rf).$$
Proof: Since $f = LR f$ and $(Rf)(0) = 0$, if $\Sigma$ is s-stable the definition directly yields
$$(Rf) \in \mathcal{D}(\Sigma) \iff L(Rf) = f \in \mathcal{D}(\Sigma),$$
and
$$\Sigma (Rf) = (Rf)(0) + \Sigma(LRf) = \Sigma(LRf) = \Sigma f.$$
Conversely, if $\Sigma$ is a regular and linear summation method with the property of the lemma, then $I\bigl(f(0)\bigr) \in c \subset \mathcal{D}(\Sigma)$ and $f = I\bigl(f(0)\bigr) + RLf$ shows
$$f \in \mathcal{D}(\Sigma) \iff RL f \in \mathcal{D}(\Sigma) \iff Lf \in \mathcal{D}(\Sigma)$$
and
$$\Sigma f = \Sigma \bigl(I\bigl(f(0)\bigr) + RL f\bigr) = \Sigma\bigl(I\bigl(f(0)\bigr)\bigr) + \Sigma(RL f) = f(0) + \Sigma(RL f) = f(0) + \Sigma(Lf).$$
For our first example of a regular and linear but not strongly stable method, it is more convenient to use limiting methods. Let $\mathscr{U}$ be a free ultrafilter on $\mathbb{N}$. Define
$$\Lambda_{\mathscr{U}} f = \lim f(\mathscr{U})$$
whenever that limit exists. Thus $\mathcal{D}(\Lambda_{\mathscr{U}}) \supsetneq \ell^{\infty}(\mathbb{N},\mathbb{C}) \supset c$, and since $\mathscr{U}$ is free, $\Lambda_{\mathscr{U}}$ is regular. But $\Lambda_{\mathscr{U}}$ is not strongly stable. As an ultrafilter, $\mathscr{U}$ contains either the set of even natural numbers or the set of odd natural numbers, but not both. The sequence $f \colon n \mapsto (-1)^n$ belongs to $\ell^{\infty}(\mathbb{N},\mathbb{C}) \subset \mathcal{D}(\Lambda_{\mathscr{U}})$, and we have $\Lambda_{\mathscr{U}} f = \pm 1$, the sign depending on whether the set of even naturals or the set of odd naturals belongs to $\mathscr{U}$ and
$$\Lambda_{\mathscr{U}}(Rf) = - \Lambda_{\mathscr{U}} f \neq \Lambda_{\mathscr{U}} f.$$
Such a summation/limiting method is of course a) not explicit, and b) not used in practice.
But analytic continuation of Dirichlet series is a widely used summation method, and a slight modification of that yields a regular and linear summation method that is not strongly stable. We let $\mathcal{D}(\Sigma)$ be the subspace of $S$ such that
- the Dirichlet series $D_f(s) :=\sum_{n = 0}^{\infty} \frac{f(n)}{(n+1)^s}$ converges in some half-plane $\operatorname{Re} s > \alpha$,
- the function $D_f$ has a meromorphic continuation $M_f$ to at least the half-plane $\operatorname{Re} s > 0$, and
- $\lim\limits_{t \to 0^+} M_f(t)$ exists,
and define
$$\Sigma f := \lim_{t \to 0^+} M_f(t)$$
for $f \in \mathcal{D}(\Sigma)$.
This method differs from analytic continuation of the Dirichlet series in that a) we don't require that the continuation is holomorphic on a neighbourhood of $0$; in that respect $\Sigma$ is more general, and b) we require the existence of a meromorphic continuation to the whole half-plane $\operatorname{Re} s > 0$; in that respect $\Sigma$ is less general.
We omit the trivial proof that $\Sigma$ is linear and the easy proof that $\Sigma$ is regular, and skip forward to showing that $\Sigma$ is not s-stable.
Since the Riemann $\zeta$-function is meromorphic on the whole plane and has only a single pole at $1$, the two sequences $a \colon n \mapsto 1$ and $b \colon n \mapsto n$ belong to $\mathcal{D}(\Sigma)$, and we have
$$\Sigma a = \zeta(0) = -\frac{1}{2} \quad\text{and}\quad \Sigma b = \zeta(-1) = -\frac{1}{12}.$$
But $Rb = b - a$, and hence $Rb \in \mathcal{D}(\Sigma)$ with
$$\Sigma(Rb) = \Sigma(b - a) = -\frac{1}{12} + \frac{1}{2} = \frac{5}{12} \neq \Sigma b,$$
so $\Sigma$ is not s-stable.