By definition of $R$, $(a, a) \in R$. So, $R$ is reflexive.
Suppose $(a, b) \in R$. By definition, $(a, b)$ must be of the form $(c, c)$ for some $c$. But then $(c, a) \in R$ by the indiscernibility of identicals (substitutivity of equals). Similarly, $(b, a) \in R$ by a second application of the same principle. So, if $(a,b) \in R$, $(b, a) \in R$. That is, $R$ is symmetric.
Suppose $(a,b) \in R$ and $(b,c) \in R$. By definition, $(a,b)$ must be of the form $(d,d)$ for some $d$. But, then, $(b,c) \in R$ implies that $(d,c) \in R$ by the indiscernibility of identicals (substitutivity of equals). A second application of the same principle yields $(a,c) \in R$. So, $(a, b) \in R$ and $(b, c) \in R$ implies $(a, c) \in R$. That is, R is transitive.
Since $R$ is reflexive, symmetric, and transitive, $R$ is an equivalence relation.
This is one of those nasty little bootstrap proofs that seem to make no sense unless one understands that one is relating two distinct notations to one another. The sign of equality "warrants" substitutions in the notation of the class elements as ordered pairs.
And, I just noticed -- proving that a relation is an equivalence relation is not "showing the equivalence class" of a relation. I think your wording is leading you to some confusion.