Use the polarization identities (since you're in a real vector space):
$$\langle u,v\rangle = {1\over 4}(\lVert u+v\rVert^2-\lVert u-v\rVert^2).$$
For complex:
$$\langle u,v\rangle = {1\over 4}(\lVert u+v\rVert^2-\lVert u-v\rVert^2+i\lVert u+iv\rVert^2 -i\lVert u-iv\rVert^2).$$
If all they want is a restatement then just write it out:
$$\begin{cases}\lVert u+v\rVert^2=\langle u+v,u+v\rangle=\lVert u\rVert^2+\lVert v\rVert^2+\langle u,v\rangle +\langle v,u\rangle \\
\lVert u-v\rVert^2=\langle u-v,u-v\rangle=\lVert u\rVert^2+\lVert v\rVert^2-\langle u,v\rangle -\langle v,u\rangle\end{cases}$$
Then equality means
$$\langle u,v\rangle +\overline{\langle u,v\rangle} = -(\langle u,v\rangle+\overline{\langle u,v\rangle})$$
So $\text{Re}(\langle u,v\rangle)=0$ is the condition.
You can even verify this in the basic case of $V=\Bbb C$ where the inner product is given as $\langle u,v\rangle= u\overline{v}$. Let $u=1, v=i$ then $\langle u,v\rangle =(1)(-i)$ and clearly $\lVert u+v\rVert^2 = \lVert u-v\rVert^2=2$.