Assume that $f$ is locally absolutely continuous and $f,f'\in L^2(\mathbb{R})$. Then $ff' \in L^1$, which gives the existence of the following limits
$$
\lim_{x\rightarrow\pm\infty}\int_{0}^{x}f(t)f'(t)dt=\lim_{x\rightarrow\infty}f(x)^2-f(0)^2.
$$
The limits $\lim_{x\rightarrow\pm\infty}f(x)^2$ must be $0$ because $f$ is absolutely integrable.
The Plancherel Theorem gives
\begin{align}
\widehat{f} & = L^2\mbox{-}\lim_{R\rightarrow\infty}\frac{1}{\sqrt{2\pi}}\int_{-R}^{R}f(x)e^{-i\xi x}dt \\
\widehat{f'} & = L^2\mbox{-}\lim_{R\rightarrow\infty}\frac{1}{\sqrt{2\pi}}\int_{-R}^{R}f'(x)e^{-i\xi x}dx.
\end{align}
An $L^2$ convergent sequence has a subsequence that converges pointwise a.e.. So there is a sequence $\{ R_n \}$ converging to $\infty$ such that the following holds for a.e. $\xi\in\mathbb{R}$:
\begin{align}
\widehat{f'}(\xi)&=\lim_{n}\frac{1}{\sqrt{2\pi}}\int_{-R_n}^{R_n}f'(x)e^{-i\xi x}dx \\
&= \lim_n \frac{1}{\sqrt{2\pi}}\left[f(x)e^{-i\xi x}|_{x=-R_n}^{R_n}+i\xi\frac{1}{\sqrt{2\pi}}\int_{-R_n}^{R_n}f(x)e^{-i\xi x}dx\right].
\end{align}
Therefore, the following holds a.e., and the limit exist pointwise a.e. :
$$
\widehat{f'}(\xi)=\lim_n\frac{i\xi}{\sqrt{2\pi}}\int_{-R_n}^{R_n}f(t)e^{-i\xi t}dt = i\xi\hat{f}(\xi).
$$
And that's what you need to do what you want.
Once you know that $\widehat{f'}(\xi)=i\xi\hat{f}(\xi)$, then $\xi\hat{f}(\xi)\in L^2$ by Plancerel's Theorem, and
\begin{align}
\int_{-\infty}^{\infty} |\hat{f}(\xi)|d\xi
&= \int_{-\infty}^{\infty}\frac{1}{\sqrt{1+\xi^2}}(\sqrt{1+\xi^2}|\hat{f}(\xi)|)d\xi \\
&\le \left( \int_{-\infty}^{\infty}\frac{1}{1+\xi^2}d\xi\right)^{1/2}
\left(\int_{-\infty}^{\infty}(1+\xi^2)|\hat{f}(\xi)|^2d\xi\right)^{1/2} \\
& = \sqrt{\pi}\left(\int_{-\infty}^{\infty}|f(x)|^2+|f'(x)|^2 dx\right)^{1/2} < \infty.
\end{align}