How can it be seen that if we take the category of (oriented) $n$-dimensional compact smooth manifolds with boundary and identify them up to co-bordism that this is in fact a set? I am reading that one can define a group structure on these equivalence classes, by using disjoint union (and picking suitable orientations/embeddings for the cobordism in the oriented case), but I'm still unsure how to see this is a set.
It is mentioned here by Tom Weston, and also in Stong's "Notes on Cobordism theory" that it follows from the Whitney Embedding Theorem, (possibly also using the idea of doubling) that since one can embed an $n-$dimensional manifold with boundary into $\Bbb{R}^{2n}$, you can consider in that case representatives of the category of smooth manifolds of all dimension as sub manifolds of $\Bbb{R}^\infty$. Then they say that this is a small category and that should mean that the representatives form a set.
I don't quite see how you can tell it's a small category, and actually I'm not sure what they mean by sub-manifold in that case either. I know there are ways to put topologies on $\Bbb{R}^\infty$, but I'm not sure in what way this is a manifold or in what sense the word sub-manifold is meant.