I'll explain here how to approach limits of functions in two variables, with the example the OP proposed in mind. If the limit $\lim_{(x,y)\to (0,0)} \frac{xy}{x+y}$ exists and equals $L$, then it also follows that if $\{(x_n,y_n)\}$ is a sequence of points with limit $(0,0)$, then $\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{x_ny_n}{x_n+y_n}=L.$ Now we can choose a number of easy sequences $\{(x_n,y_n)\}$ with limit $(0,0)$, and calculate the limit. For instance, we can pick points in a line $y=\lambda x$, with slope $\lambda$, i.e., $(x_n,y_n) = (\frac{1}{n}, \frac{\lambda}{n})$. In this case: $\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{x_ny_n}{x_n+y_n}=\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{\frac{\lambda}{n^2}}{\frac{1}{n}+\frac{\lambda}{n}}=\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{\lambda}{(1+\lambda)n}$ and the limit is $0$ as long as $\lambda\neq -1$. Hence, if the limit exists, it must be $0$. But the problem with $\lambda=-1$ tells us that there may be a problem if we approach $(0,0)$ with a path that ends tangent to $y=-x$ (notice that the function is not defined at points with $y=-x$).
Thus, next we look at a sequence following a path on a curve with tangent line $y=-x$ at $(0,0)$. Examples of such curves include $y=x^2-x$, $y=-x^2-x$ or $y=e^{-x}-1$. Thus, we may consider sequences $(x_n,y_n)$ given by: $\left(\frac{1}{n},\frac{1}{n^2}-\frac{1}{n}\right),\quad \text{or} \quad \left(\frac{1}{n},-\frac{1}{n^2}-\frac{1}{n}\right), \quad \text{or} \quad \left(\frac{1}{n},e^{-1/n}-1\right).$ For the first sequence we obtain: $\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{x_ny_n}{x_n+y_n}=\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{\frac{1}{n^3}-\frac{1}{n^2}}{\frac{1}{n}+\frac{1}{n^2}-\frac{1}{n}}=\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{\frac{1}{n^3}-\frac{1}{n^2}}{\frac{1}{n^2}}=\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{1-n}{n}= -1.$ But the limit was supposed to be $L=0$. Hence the limit cannot exist. Similarly, if we try the other two sequences listed above: $\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{x_ny_n}{x_n+y_n}=\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{-\frac{1}{n^3}-\frac{1}{n^2}}{\frac{1}{n}-\frac{1}{n^2}-\frac{1}{n}}=\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{-\frac{1}{n^3}-\frac{1}{n^2}}{-\frac{1}{n^2}}=\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{1+n}{n}= 1,$ and $\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{x_ny_n}{x_n+y_n}=\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{n(e^{-1/n}-1)}{n+e^{-1/n}-1}=\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{e^{-1/n}-1}{1+\frac{e^{-1/n}}{n}-\frac{1}{n}}=-1.$ These results are inconsistent, and therefore the limit cannot exist. Even more dramatic: let $\{x_n,y_n\}$ be a sequence following the curve $y=x^3-x$ towards the origin, for instance put $(x_n,y_n)=(\frac{1}{n},\frac{1}{n^3}-\frac{1}{n})$. Then: $\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{x_ny_n}{x_n+y_n}=\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{\frac{1}{n^4}-\frac{1}{n^2}}{\frac{1}{n}+\frac{1}{n^3}-\frac{1}{n}}=\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{\frac{1}{n^4}-\frac{1}{n^2}}{\frac{1}{n^3}}=\lim_{n\to\infty} \frac{1-n^2}{n}= -\infty.$