Hint $\ \rm\displaystyle\ \frac{m\!+\!1}n + \frac{n\!+\!1}m = 3\iff n^2 - (3m\!-\!1)\, n + m^2\!+\!m = 0,\ \:n,m\ne 0 $
Notice if $\rm\:n\:$ is a root of $\rm\ n^2 - (3m\!-\!1)\, n + m^2\!+\!m\:$ then so too is $\rm\,n' = (3m\!-\!1)\!-\!n = 3m\!-\!n\!-\!1,\:$ since the sum of the roots equals minus the linear coefficient $\rm\ n+n' =\ 3m-1.$
That there are infinitely many solutions now follows easily by noting that this yields a symmetry map on the solution space that produces "bigger" solutions, so iterating it, starting with the solution $\rm\:(2,3),\:$ yields an unbounded so infinite set of solutions. Indeed, composing the above "other root" reflection $\rm\:(n,m)\to (n',m)\:$ with $\rm(x,y)\to (y,x)\:$ yields $\rm\:(n,m)\to (m,n')\:,$ which is "bigger" since $\rm\: m > n \ge 1\:\Rightarrow\: n'>m\:$ by $\rm\:n' = 3m\!-\!n\!-\!1 = m\!-\!n\, +\, m\!-\!1\, +\, m\, >\, m\quad$ QED
This yields $\rm\:(n,m)\, =\, (2,3),\, (3,6),\,(6,14),\,(14,35),\,(35,90),\,\ldots,\,(f_{\,2k+1}\!+1,f_{\,2k+3}\!+1),\,\ldots\:$ comprised of odd-index Fibonacci numbers plus one, as discovered by Jyrki by means of a completely different approach. Indeed, we have
$\begin{eqnarray}\rm \rm (n,\,m) &\to&\rm\ (m,\ 3m-n-1)\, =\, (m,n')\quad \\ \rm i.e. \ \ \ (1+f_{\,k},\,1+f_{\,k+2}) &\to&\rm\ (1+f_{\,k+2},\,1+f_{\,k+4}) \end{eqnarray}$
because $\rm\ 1+f_{\,k+4} = 3(1+f_{\,k+2}) - (1+f_{\,k}) - 1 = 3m-n-1 = n'\:$ as is easily checked.
Remark $ $ Note that the above approach does not require any knowledge about Fibonacci numbers (or any other specialized knowledge). Instead, everything follows from the simple and ubiquitous fact that reflecting to the "other root" (called "Vieta jumping" by some), combined with the obvious reflection $\rm\:(x,y)\to (y,x)\:$ from the equation being symmetric, yields a group of symmetries on the solution space, one which allows us to generate an unbounded (so infinite) set of solutions.
These and related results have beautiful geometric interpretations via addition laws (and symmetry groups) of conics - a poor man's view of the beautiful group law on elliptic curves. Also there are close connections to simple special cases of Pell's equation and related results (see here for further discussion and lterature referneces). But one need not know such advanced techniques to comprehend and admire the beauty of said symmetry-inspired techniques.